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  • Charlie Kirk, the Church, and Our Big Miss

    November 22nd, 2025

    [I wrote this in September after Kirk’s death, but I’m posting two months later because it did not seem wise to add more commentary at the time. Looking back, I still feel we’re missing something.]

    Buckle up. I might offend everyone with this post.

    It was not long ago that I had just finished serving on a church search committee that left me bubbling with hope for revival. I will not be able to share the whole story so let me share the Cliffs Notes.

    I served on a committee of roughly 15 people including and not limited to: mostly Boomers, two African American men, three Asian Americans, one of whom was a toddler during Japanese internment, two Armenian men of different generations, an immigrant from Guatemala, a former rock musician, a psychologist, a professor, and a formerly incarcerated person. Most, but not all, were conservative.

    We struggled together over the course of three years to choose a senior pastor. We were not helped by COVID or the political divisiveness of those years.

    In the end, we chose an Indian immigrant by way of Canada and the Middle East. At the time, the choice represented to me something of a third way (an alternative to two extremes, an outside perspective).

    I cannot speak to all the mechanisms that moved behind the scenes without the consent of the members at large, but for our part we experienced a miraculous unification as we covenanted with one another through prayer to discern our decision.

    Shortly after, while still buzzing with the Holy Spirit about what I had learned through my transformation in that community of prayer and discernment, I was giving a seminar for ministry colleagues. I called it, “Can These Bones Live?” and I explained the components that made for a sort of revival among the committee members.

    I depicted the conditions that created a pathway for the Holy Spirit:

    •Confession and repentance

    •Humility and letting go of control

    •Releasing fear and performance concerns

    •Prophetic actions of reconciliation that crossed barriers

    •Meeting together for prayer

    •Fasting

    •Dependence on God and surrendering our personal wills for the sake of what God might be directing us toward as a whole

    I made it clear to those attending the seminar that the spiritual transformation we found as a group with one another came from these spiritual practices and conditions above and that there was something extremely important about all the forms of diversity on that committee. These were not forms of diversity determined by an ideology that dictates what types need to be checked off. This is our God-given diversity of story and experience and personality, and God’s unique way of using that to show us that we needed one another. The quickest way to decide something is if everyone agrees, but the best way to discern something for a collective is to wrestle through our diversity and difference. This is why God gives us community, so we can reflect the infiniteness of God more than a singular person or perspective can.

    Out of my own sense of anticipation, I began to formulate five Rs of revival: reversal, repentance, renunciation, reconciliation, and restoration. Looking back, our church made it through the first two of these five. We never quite took off for the rest while I was still around to see it.

    To my great sadness, once we moved through the phase of choosing the pastor, the commitment to diverse perspectives flew out the window and a group of people decided that they “won” the outcome. Those winners got to determine the direction of the church to some extent. Without the task of needing to choose a pastor across differences, the regular machinations came back into play.

    What does this have to do with Charlie Kirk?

    It has to do with a commitment to try to understand arguments from within. There is nothing more frustrating than to see people talk past one another, for groups to shout accusations at one another that reflect group think.

    We now tell ourselves that because we deem an ideology toxic or sinful we do not have to try to understand it from within the perspectives of the people who are drawn to it. This, I believe, is a mistake. Without this practice we have little hope of ever moving past where we are right now and we will continue to get sicker as a society.

    Did I agree with Charlie Kirk? No. Can I put myself in the shoes of some of my friends and family and try to understand what they liked about him? Not at first glance. It requires drawing from a very deep well. It requires a kind of integrity to debate or argumentation where you see it through the eyes of the other person. Does that mean I cannot have a final opinion on whether there are problems with the idea or person? No. But, it does require for me not to play the game of name-calling and dehumanizing.

    When I was on that committee, I was with people who probably upheld Charlie Kirk as a saint with great insights and those who would not. It was only in our proximity to one another that we began to question whether each person, as an individual participating in a larger movement and dialogue, was inherently evil for doing so. The answer in the case of the members of our committee was no. I certainly believe that there are truly evil individuals across a spectrum of ideologies. But most of us are everyday citizens and, in this case, Christians, trying to live out what we have been taught and shaped by. There is a good amount of malformation to contend with, and certainly there are evil systems, but that does not make individuals caught up in a system evil.

    I can reject everything I do not agree with wholesale. That is a choice which is currently most popular across the political spectrum. But, I’ll be honest, I am too hungry for transformation. I do not do well in a society with a 50/50 split of hatred everyday and I see no hope in wondering when the other 50 percent will get to our side. This is going to take a very different kind of work with tools that are not being honed in the public eye.

    If you unfriend everyone who says something opposite of what you hold dear, I cannot blame you for doing so out of repulsion. That is where we are at, we are dealing deeply in the emotion of disgust and that is a normal response to such a strong emotion. But, what I suggest instead is to silence it for a time and consider whether proximity to one another might allow you to find other redeemable qualities that help you stay open to the possibility of love and care for one another.

    I get it. In the ears of every person on the left I am asking you to stay close to Serena Waterford. In the ears of every person on the right I am asking you compromise by hanging out with sinners.

    The problem, Christians, is that Jesus did both.

    None of us have to do this. We can choose to do it if we are empowered by the Spirit to do so.

    That’s the big miss, our lack of appetite for the type of proximity that acknowledges the humanity in others. Once we begin to see and experience it, the Spirit flows freely and Satan has no where to hide. On the other hand, if our picture of revival is our group getting its way, we’re all going to be sorely disappointed in the end.

    https://picryl.com/media/communion-wine-bread-da0f5b
  • 6 Therapists in 3 Years: What it Took to Find a Fit in a Crisis

    October 24th, 2025

    Yesterday, my therapist let me know that I had been seeing her for two years. It was time to reevaluate what was needed as we moved ahead. My gigantic insurance reimbursement spreadsheet shows that we met weekly for 9 months and have been meeting every other week since then, for a total of 24. 

    20 years ago, when I was a newlywed beginning my career, I was referred to a therapist who saw me for the duration of my pregnancy with Emma. We worked on some key things that helped me adjust to adulthood with a better awareness of myself and my emotions. That was a great foundation for my adult life.

    But then I entered a different season: the second half of life.

    When the Old Tools Stop Working

    Around age 40, the familiar strategies that once worked for me became ineffective. Changes in my work, home, and lifestyle intensified by the pandemic made it clear that I needed new approaches. 

    Unprocessed trauma surprised me and seeking help turned out to be a complex journey, not a quick fix.

    2022: The First Attempts

    Still COVID-cautious in this part of the country, I found an in-network licensed social worker to meet on Zoom. She taught me how to do box breathing for anxiety, but also told me to “just talk” to family members if things were stressful. It was like I had a piece of the puzzle (breath work) but not the other piece (actual strategies for my situations). 

    I don’t think she’s ever lived in a home with neurodivergent people, much less trapped during a pandemic in the same four walls together. 

    I asked Jeff to find a couples therapist with me to work on the new dynamics around raising teenagers. I didn’t care that this licensed marriage and family therapist wasn’t in-network. I just found the nearest Asian American available right away, hoping that would cover any cross-cultural nuances. We met with her for 18 months, nearly every week.

    If I were to describe these 18 months, it would be like every member of our family was drowning. One domino would go down and the others would follow. It became clear that perhaps trauma was making each of our lives harder. We never got past showing up every week in survival mode to learn any strategies or repair anything.

    2023: The Breaking Point

    During that time, I started meeting with a new personal therapist. She worked with me on Zoom, asking me what I was feeling and where I felt it in my body. I felt no emotion in my body. I could name simple emotions like sadness, frustration, and stress.

    I told her it felt like we were pummeled by relentless hardships with no time to catch our breaths. If one more giant wave hit, I felt I would go under.

    Shortly after, I hit my lowest point when I was blindsided by a decision that did not work out in my favor. At the time, we were waiting for a favorable decision that would give us a new season and alleviate many of the stressors in our lives. 

    One day, desperate for relief, I took a walk, but was barely able to move. Despite regular exercise, I felt 80 years old. I stopped and lay down under a shady tree, staring at the sky. Despair caused my muscles and joints to move like old machinery, barely able to turn on.

    Photo by Tom Fisk

    Late 2023: A Realization

    After 18 months with the same couples therapist, we left to find a neurodiverse couples specialist. Looking back, it seems odd we stayed as long as we did despite the cost and minimal progress, but we clung to any support we could find while the issues accumulated. We felt surprised that we had worked with so many people in crisis, but could not find the right kind of help for our own collapse.

    If only my plan had worked 6 years before when I asked if we could do couples therapy while things were going well, to work off the habits of the PhD we had pushed through. The only problem was our insurance approved 8 sessions with a therapist WHO FELL ASLEEP during the sessions.

    When my personal therapist moved, I reevaluated. I realized traditional talk therapy was not working for me. 

    I talk for a living. I do conflict resolution much of the time. I manage high-level situations. Jeff and I were not the type of people who have no self-reflection or people skills, and then get the opportunity to finally tend to it in therapy. I realized the disconnect was happening in my body. 

    During the pandemic, I read a book that focused on healing the body from experiences of racial trauma and violence. In the process, it introduced me to the concept of somatic (body) therapy. At the same time, the algorithms guided me, populating my social media feed with information about why some people don’t heal with talk therapy alone. 

    This sounded like me. I decided to Google “somatic therapists” and found one. She called me and I jumped in. She is the therapist I have been meeting with for 2 years. I am thankful for the way she integrates all kinds of therapies into trauma-informed care.

    2024 Learning to Feel Again 

    In our very first few meetings, she validated my experiences and said most of her patients were experiencing a flood of post-COVID anxieties or trauma, especially those who had parented in difficult situations. She diagnosed me with chronic PTSD, and over time, we began to find safety in my body, even as I continue to live amidst a number of unresolved issues day-to-day.

    One day, I attended a training on Zoom to learn about a new ministry program. It was the first time I had been in an all-day online meeting in five months. My body got exhausted and I felt myself slightly shaking. I had to turn off my camera and lie in bed. I realized I was experiencing some sort of PTSD from working day and night on Zoom during a prolonged crisis. 

    I brought this insight to my therapist and recalled to her the distracting and disturbing noises in the house that I experienced when I would try to work in the office during our pandemic year. I noted chewing, slamming, crying, barking, laughing, doorbells, and my family rustling as they searched for food. She helped me understand why these noises were so distressing to me. 

    I was present to a camera, showing active listening to others elsewhere, while inwardly suppressing what I felt and worried about in my home. 

    I had no idea I had been affected this way.

    I began to learn the language of healing a nervous system. Did you know that when you go into fight, flight, fawn, freeze, or flop as a trauma response, your nervous system is either getting activated into hyper-arousal (like the fight mode) or hypo-arousal (flop or exhaustion)? You either can’t calm down or you crash out.

    As difficult situations continued to unfold, I went through over a year of terrible symptoms of hyper-arousal such as shaking uncontrollably from the time I woke up. I could only exert myself for a short period of time each day and then I would go into hypo-arousal of needing to lie down.

    Couples Therapy Rounds 2 & 3

    We tried an online neurodiverse couples therapist. Despite his gentle efforts, he was moving slowly and progress was minimal. Then he went on a leave of absence indefinitely due to a house remodel.

    Exhausted by being let down, we stopped seeking couples therapy and continued with our individual therapists for a while. 

    Then, a church we had been quietly attending for a few months announced that they were going to give 150 couples 12 free sessions of marriage therapy. I signed us up. Jeff agreed. It gave us the boost we needed. My husband chose a therapist from their generous list of approved facilities. It was finally a fit. We continue to meet with her every other week, even as we have switched to out-of-pocket payment.

    Thank God. It took three years, but I have two good therapists. 

    Healing in the Second Half of Life 

    I am learning, for the first time, to cry a little in the moment instead of becoming dysregulated months later, when things compound. I am learning how to feel a wider range of feelings than sad, frustrated, or stressed. I am teaching myself that I am safe right now, even if my brain is telling me I am not. I am learning that I can go for a walk or go to Trader Joe’s when I am getting flooded with a bodily sensation that feels traumatic. (A trick for teaching yourself that you are not trapped in a cycle like your brain may be telling you).

    I am trying to teach my brain that just because a family member is having a bad day does not mean they hate me, don’t love me, or that I am going to wither up and die. I am learning not to be hypervigilant to control or manage others around me, but to manage myself and the sensations that come with moving through discomfort. 

    My body and brain demanded that I take care of myself this way when everything got to be too much. It has felt at times like I am dying on my way to a resurrection, but when I look back with my therapist at all that I have accomplished, I know that deep healing has begun to take root. 

    Many of us probably come from cultures and places that assume you only go to therapy if you have an out-of-the-ordinary type of problem. But since I have been working with people for over 25 years, I know the truth is that all humans have problems and need help navigating them. Everyone should go to therapy, and there should be no stigma for needing couples, individual, or family therapy. I work with parents every day who tell me about their grief, frustration, bodily overwhelm, dread, and confusion. We all need help.

    I hope my story helps you stay on the road to healing in whatever way you need.

  • Courageous, Compassionate, & Called: Brigid’s Expansive Way

    August 18th, 2025

    My Friend Brigid

    Summer ended in the blink of an eye, and my 10-day trip to Ireland feels like a mirage. Before I forget the details, I believe it is time I introduce you to my new friend from the journey, Brigid.


    Brigid has fiery red hair and a personality to match. Rejecting her culture’s customs, she refused to be married, costing her important father a slew of cattle, weapons, and land. Instead, she took up vows to God. I wonder if her father saw it coming. After all, as a child she did give his sword to a beggar. No wonder she developed the controversial habit of taking from the wealthy for the poor. 


    Her cloaks, in sapphire and emerald tones, are alluring. Mysterious and majestic, they convey warrior meets wizard, while her pursuits are all peaceful and scholarly. A leader for all, she established monasteries in Kildare for both men and women, known not only for prayer and learning, but also for hospitality to any person in need. As if the mystique of channeling Robin Hood, Mother Teresa, and Disney’s Merida, were not enough, she is also known for her discerning ability to settle disputes, like King Solomon. 

    Painting by Lia Laimbock, lialaimbock.com

    Miracles of Abundance

    Brigid is a new friend of mine, but she’s not my contemporary. She lived in the mid-400s to early 500s. Some might say she colored outside the lines. I would say she lived beyond the confines of family, culture, and the religious establishment in her time. Her story shows that God was with her “out there.” For example, she boldly asked the King of Leinster for property for her monastery, of which he offered her “whatever her cloak would cover.” It sounds like he expected to give her a piece of land the size of my local community garden plot, but he was about to learn the mystery of abundance. Brigid and her companions unrolled her cloak over the acres that would become the borders for her new monasteries. Like David, she could say her boundary lines fell in pleasant places (Ps. 16:6).


    Greater yet is the mystery of her ordination. As a woman, Brigid was restricted to particular vows for religious life, but during her ceremony, the priest “accidentally” read her the vows for a bishop. Some called it a mistake that stuck, while others said it was the work of the Holy Spirit. Either way, it was another example of abundance. The containers created by humanity put the world in categories that keep things orderly and clear for us, but the Spirit of God operates freely (Jn 3:8). Bishop Brigid was given a wide open space (Ps. 18:19) both physically with land and spiritually with her unconventional title as a woman. Out of this, she lived a faithfully expansive mission, reflecting God’s expansive world, without knowing it would earn her a seat as a patron saint of Ireland.

    Beyond Domination


    Initially, I perceived Brigid was something of a maternal guide for men and women alike. But, there was something about her leadership that begged for a wider lens. Hers is not only a story about female leadership in patriarchal times. These categories alone shrink the picture of Brigid among the sweeping green fields of Kildare. The way she carried her Holy Spirit-entrusted authority into her expressions of peace, hospitality, and care for the poor and creation invited us all to do the same. She is more of a model than a reformer, a be-er instead of a fixer. For no other goal, she existed from her God-given authority, extending God’s goodness and love in her space.

    Barrie McGuire, http://www.maguiregallery.com/barrie/brigidscloak.htm

    Like Christ, Brigid brings a non-dominating leadership and spiritual authority in a world stuck on tools of domination. Perhaps what draws us to Brigid is as simple as that–Christ in her essence and ways. She was born under the protection of the sword, but sold that sword to a beggar. She should have been wed in exchange for land, but instead received her land at the hand of God. Her womb was to be a future king-maker, but she was made a bishop and given children of all kinds. She did not use tools of domination, nor worry about their forces. She walked differently, in the opposite direction of systems of domination, and the Lord provided.

    While our impulse is often to reject the vulnerability encompassed in following Christ’s non-dominating example, when I meet a friend like Brigid, I become reacquainted with our soul’s deep desire to live in a space like hers. Containers of identity try to lay claim on me, but in the endless expanse, I am free to delight in God’s creation from a posture of sharing and flourishing. There is nothing to hoard in this space. This was humanity’s first relationship with creation in the Garden of Eden.

    Domination, on the other hand, is a human tool for wielding power and control. It is a product of the fall, giving rise to all sorts of evil. While it’s true that God gave humanity a part in God’s shared authority over the garden, sometimes referred to as shared dominion, our human capacity for keeping this sort of stewardship pure is quite limited. This is seen in the trajectory of dominion theology (or dominionism) whereby the ends justify the means and human domination over earth, animals, and people is permitted. Deep down, while our flesh wants to control someone else, our spirit wants to live in a space where we are neither dominated nor dominating others. Our innate programming from our Creator points to this desire. 


    Bishop Brigid invited all of us weary journeyers in Kildare to a world more real than the one her clan members shed blood over. She invited us into “earth as it is in heaven.” She did not need the title of bishop, saint, or chieftain’s daughter to do it. Rather, she lived according to God’s ways, without striving for those other systems to give her approval. 

    Confidence in my Own Calling


    Brigid reminds me that God is not only with us in contained spaces where we can see and define everything. Our calling is not ultimately informed by the titles and accolades bestowed upon us by institutions. God is present there, but God is equally present in the expansive outside world–spaces too vast for us to hold in our minds, let alone our hands.

    How else should we understand the hidden places of God’s creation? In the Kildare oak grove, we learned that below the surface, root systems communicate with one another, reflecting God’s artistry and order. Why do we try to dominate something so beyond us? Lord, have mercy on us for our pride that causes us to believe you have called us to lead things so that we can build something great. Our never-ending vocation is to worship you, not ourselves and our creations.

    In contrast, I like the way Brigid followed her desire to live a life for God and let God take care of the rest. After all, we now know the Holy Spirit unfolds cloaks to cover acres, illuminates words to bless and commission. Those who would otherwise be overlooked, passed over, or forbidden are welcome and provided for at both God’s table and Saint Brigid’s monastery.

    And, wouldn’t you know it? On the day we arrived in Kildare to learn about Brigid, there had been a miscommunication. Twelve of us arrived just in time for lunch to two sisters who had no idea what time we were coming and no lunch. In keeping with the tradition of their patron saint, they did not bat one eyelash of condemnation or inconvenience and kindly left to purchase lunch, bringing it back to feed us.

    And so, in the spirit of my new friend, I say, “Weary travelers, have a seat.”

    God will provide.

  • A Pilgrim’s Tree

    July 13th, 2025

    Expansive-ness
    in answers unknown—

    exhaustion,
    bruised with hesitation,
    one step at a time.

    Breathe.

    I’m okay
    here—

    sailing the dark
    Atlantic,
    fasting at
    isolating
    heights.

    It’s rocky,
    misty,
    and dim—

    but allemansrätten
    lies

    beneath
    her cloak,

    widening
    to share,
    heal,
    and live.

    In another
    village—

    melodious
    bells
    of old

    contrast
    Elisa’s
    tiny cries,

    which pierced
    the night.

    La ruota
    degli esposti
    —
    the brink,

    cold, fragile,
    but safe—

    to nestle
    nurse for milk.

    this wheel is

    like the oaks,
    exchanging

    signals
    root to root.

    I lay
    my ear to the
    ground

    they whisper:

    “dúchas“

    while the bell chimes

    She’s here.

    ______________________________

    allemansrätten – A unique Swedish principle, literally “every man’s right,” referring to the freedom to roam and access nature regardless of land ownership.

    la ruota degli esposti – Italian for “the wheel of the exposed,” a rotating mechanism in church walls used to anonymously leave infants in 18th–19th century Italy, while alerting a priest with a bell.

    dúchas – Irish, refers to an instinctual, spiritual sense of belonging to the land where a person is from, including inherited traits from the people and culture.

    Hill of Slane, June 2025

    taken by: Lisa Haller Liou

  • One Last Meeting: The Gift of Spiritual Direction

    July 1st, 2025

    A spiritual director is someone trained to come alongside you as a listening companion in your relationship with God. It is an old tradition, gaining wider traction in the last couple of decades. Nearly sixteen years ago, when I moved to California, I knew that I eventually wanted to find a spiritual director.

    I had occasionally met with a spiritual director in Chicago. However, at the time, her schedule was becoming complicated with caring for an ill family member. I had limited time that overlapped with her in Evanston, where we would meet. When I arrived in California, I knew I probably needed a consistent person who was very accessible to me.

    Finding a Spiritual Director

    While several of my colleagues practice spiritual direction, I sought out someone from outside our work environment on Google. What emerged was an eclectic list of names, ranging from New Age to Christian. I started with the most practical option, contacting a church with a reputable name down the street. I was referred to two women, the first was Julie. Since our first meeting, Julie and have met every month for fourteen years, until this last week.

    Julie knows that almost nothing in my journey to California and my life here has been natural or easy. It has been uncomfortable for us at every turn. Meeting her and fitting naturally with her was an exception. She was easy. She came into my life without any trouble or barrier. Living less than two miles away, she invited me to meet at the retreat center in the next town over. She was always there, waiting for me attentively. Whether we met in the pergola, the alcove, or inside the building, she was always seated, praying for me when I pulled up, then stood to greet and hug me.

    A Sacred Relationship

    My relationship with Julie made up almost 1/3 of my life and nearly the entirety of my sixteen years in California. Last month, Julie left us rather suddenly. I am grieving, and so are my friends who I shared her with along the way. While she did not say that she was terminally ill at our April appointment, I had begun to reflect for the first time on how one day Julie would die. I should start to prepare myself for that day, I thought. I did not know her death had already begun until a month later when she called me to her home for our final meeting.

    Julie knew what it was to suffer–to navigate call amid broken systems, deal with people who break your heart, and all the absolute junk of life. She knew how to remain a faithful wife and mom to complicated humans, including after one son had gone to be with Jesus. She grandparented with dedication. Everything she did was purposeful and a bit stubborn.

    I used to feel bad that my deeply discounted 60-minute sessions rarely finished within 90 minutes and sometimes went on to two hours. Now, I’m so grateful for Julie’s generosity of time. I understand that time was limited. Like the alabaster perfume, it was so precious it deserved to be spent rather than saved. Our rhythm continued like clockwork, but it would not continue forever.

    A Sudden Goodbye

    Just over a month ago, Julie texted me to see if I would take my last appointment at her house, indicating that it would likely be the last time we would meet. She offered to contact a mutual friend who had been meeting with Julie for almost as long. My friend made adjustments to come to town from the west side, and the two of us met with Julie before spending the day together. It was an emotional morning. We cried, we prayed, we laughed. We got to see the dynamics of Julie expanded beyond our one-on-ones by including one another and seeing her in her home.

    When we began to pray, the thing that immediately touched me and stood out the most was the gift of rhythm. Julie is a gift, but it was also the context of our meetings, a beautiful place that perfectly represented the space of spiritual direction, pulling us away to be still with God. In that space, we always began with a spontaneous appreciation of the grounds and the day, taking in the natural beauty and its contrast from the pavements where we lived just below. The grass was always green. The sky was usually cobalt blue. The deer frolicked, and the mountain and its vegetation offered a seasonal variety of orange, yellow, and purple hues. We saw bunnies, lizards, and birds. We were even there the morning of the Eaton fire before the winds began. The fire encircled the property later that evening. I am thankful that it survived.

    Mater Dolorosa Retreat Center in Sierra Madre
    Just an ordinary day at the retreat center where we met.

    Learning Surrender

    I learned so much from Julie. In many ways, All Gen Movement, the little non-profit I’ve been building in the air, is a reflection of her presence in my life. It is about approaching the needs of the church and the generations from a posture of surrender to Jesus rather than from a position of control. Surrender is the very essence of the contemplative life learned through spiritual direction. 

    Julie saw me through five job changes, a three-year stint on a church search committee, and a painful rejection of my calling that led me into a season of stumbling through the darkness. She taught me so much. Her voice prepared me for my current path when she told me “you hear from God.” She knows that every day since I heard from God has been somewhat painful and confusing. Still, she has told me every session, “You are on the right track. Keep going.”

    Following the Cross

    Whenever I complained about pain, rejection, and the lack of alignment with the kingdom happening around me, she would confront me with a hint of sarcasm. “Ya think?” she would ask me when I told her about the parts of ministry that seemed downright idiotic, idolatrous, or disobedient at times. “How do you think Jesus felt?” she would add. 

    She welcomed me to the way of the cross countless times. She might add, “I hate to tell you this, but it doesn’t get better…” or “Yay, you get to be in the club of following Jesus unto death.” Julie had a way of encouraging me to continue while holding the truth that it was hard and that few would follow.

    I know she died in the fellowship of Jesus and the cross, which she had followed, often alone, with her internal clarity and Christ keeping her secure along the way. I bet it felt good to lay it down now and not have to bear it. She can experience the other side, the victorious resurrection of Christ.

    She always told me to write everything down. I planned to, one day. For now, I am just surviving, but I should have listened to her. I wish I had written down every appointment I had with her. Instead, it has become integrated into my life. I’ll have to do some work to excavate it. 

    A Pilgrimage

    A couple days ago, I returned from a pilgrimage in Ireland. It was a spontaneous trip for me after receiving an invitation from a friend. I told Julie about it that last day at her house. She was so excited, offering me to look through her book collection on the topics of Celtic Christianity. I promised to send pictures, but she passed away 17 days before I got on the plane.

    Dear Julie,

    The pilgrimage was pretty similar to everything you’ve lived through. I visited thin spaces, walked ancient pathways, and climbed impossible mountains. Sometimes I heard the quiet voice of God. I thought of you.

    Sláinte,

    Lisa

  • Mystery and the Voice of God: My Story (Part 3)

    April 16th, 2025

    I left this story hanging in July, right before things began to take off. You may remember that all I had was a picture of a tunnel with some light at the end. Step by step, I hoped I might get out of the darkness and into the light.

    A few weeks after I posted that story, everything changed.

    Within two days, I had a 501(c)(3), a firstborn to launch, and I picked up a contract. I had to laugh, but I wanted to cry. I felt frustrated by everything happening simultaneously instead of bit by bit when I had ample time.

    Thus began the project of building the plane in the air. 

    First, let me back up.

    Shortly after I sensed that I needed to take steps toward the light, I met with a small team of friends who were praying for my next steps. At that point, it was clear to me that turning in resumes for jobs as a method of discernment was not working. 

    My heart knew what I needed to do. I just really wanted to find someone to pay me to do it.

    The discernment team asked me if I felt ready to start my own ministry organization. With reluctant clarity, I said yes. I was hesitant because I still did not like the idea. I was clear because I had to admit the fruitlessness of the four months prior. The best I could do was to take one step at a time and see if there was confirmation down this road. 

    Slowly but surely, there was. It would be hard to recall all the steps in detail now. In short, I spent early 2024 consulting with a few churches, leading local prayer groups for parents, speaking at retreats, and gradually filling out paperwork for a non-profit in the cheapest way possible. (Because the nearly $1000 of upfront costs to start the ministry were $1000 I did not have at the time.) 

    Still, I felt unsure of precisely what I was building. Was it a prayer movement for the next generation? Was it a consulting ministry for healthy churches? (Why would churches pay me to help make them healthy?) Was it a ministry to families? Would I be speaking and teaching? As it turns out, it’s a little of all those things. I am trying to find all the appropriate words to describe this succinctly on a forthcoming website. That feels vulnerable too.

    It seems obvious, but I had no idea that following Jesus’ call to ministry in a renewed sense of vulnerable dependence would require building every piece like I got a new Lego set with a step-by-step manual. In other words, none of the who, how, or what would come primarily from my strategic gifts, which I had relied on my whole career. Instead, it would be a process of following directions, even being willing to experiment with ministry ahead of knowing everything I wanted to do. 

    So many of the concerns I had been expressing in my prior senior ministry management role were obsolete when I considered created something new. The choice was mine to do ministry more organically and trust the Lord to provide. 

    I have a big vision for this little airplane called All Gen Movement. We are living in a time when one could easily say that God’s promises do not seem to be true for our kids, the Church, or the future. But I believe the Spirit has been doing a work of renewal before the crumbling even began. Like the twelve getting sent out with the bare minimum, I feel like I am on a journey to share Jesus’s healing ministry. 

    This healing is what we need. 

    Falling off a cliff with no one to catch me was painful. Getting scraped off the pavement was not much better.

    But as these stories go, the longer the time passes, eventually, we get a broader perspective of why it had to be this way. 

    My work requires freedom to operate away from systems that do harm. 

    Outside the constraints of a management job. 

    I am used to being a loyal employee who tries to bring up concerns in the context of values.

    Now, I am creating with the Creator. 

    Being an employee was much easier. 

    But right now, for me, this feels much more sacred.

    And, yes, on most days, the whole process feels a bit insane too.

    Photo taken after speaking at my last work conference, flying home into the unknown.
  • Eaton Fire (Part 2): January 7, 2025

    January 13th, 2025

    Santa Ana Winds

    In Part 1, I explained the Los Angeles landscape and our specific geography, the San Gabriel Valley, to help those watching from afar understand more about the Eaton Fire. Today, I will explain another potentially foreign concept: Santa Ana winds.

    Santa Ana winds are strong, warm winds originating inland (deriving their name from a large canyon) and blowing toward the coast in Southern California and Baja California, Mexico. They usually arrive in autumn, our region’s hottest time. While a breeze may sound nice in the scorching temps of late August and early September, this phenomenon creates dangerous weather conditions of low humidity and forceful, dry winds over parched land. Typically ranging from 10-25 miles an hour and lasting 1-3 days, they contribute to dangerous fire conditions, known to blow fires far and wide through dry vegetation.

    Even in the absence of fire, these winds can cause a great deal of damage. The most memorable to our family was in December 2011, when the strongest Santa Ana winds on record hit our town. Gusts of up to 167 miles per hour uprooted large trees from the ground, including our town’s Christmas tree in Library Park.

    Photo credit: http://www.gemcityimages.com/2011/12/windstorm.html

    January 7: Wind Event

    Early morning

    I no longer recall whether it was from my phone, the public school, or Alexa. Still, I was aware of the wind advisory that was in effect from January 7-8. I knew the gusts could be stronger than usual. However, I woke up expecting that this first post-new year week was moving toward a routine.

    We had a friend staying with us, in town to meet with her doctoral cohort. I was surprised when I learned that Fuller Seminary had preemptively canceled its classes early the morning of the 7th. It did not appear they had experienced a downed power line, so it seemed overly cautious compared to my previous experiences with Santa Ana winds.

    9:00 am-1:00 pm

    I dropped our guest in Arcadia at 9:15 a.m. and headed to Sierra Madre for a meeting at Mater Dolorosa retreat center without concern about the winds. I went back to Monrovia and logged onto Zoom for an 11:30 a.m. meeting, during which I shared how puzzling it seemed that Fuller Seminary closed its campus for two days.

    1:00 pm-5:00 pm

    I asked my husband if we could work on an expense report from 2024 before the day got away from us then took a break on the couch. As soon as I did, a call came in from Atlanta. My former boss read aloud to me snippets from a NYTimes article about a fire breaking out in Pacific Palisades and San Gabriel Valley among the areas that could be affected by the wind event. I hadn’t heard about the Palisades and was not concerned about the SGV.

    As our conversation continued, by about 2:00 pm I could hear wind whirling all around our home. After I hung up, I decided to finish my errands. I took a video of myself walking through the gusts. Before I could enter the post office, everyone exited, saying the power was out.

    When I came home, the power was out at our house, too. Jeff and I celebrated when it came back on shortly after, but we gathered up candles and battery-operated lights. Sure enough, it went off again and remained off for around 27 hours total. (A relatively short amount of time compared to those going on 9 days with no utilities).

    Monrovia friends were texting about who lost power and trying to figure out if sports practice was continuing at our high school. The kids had not yet returned from Christmas break, but sports had just resumed the day before.

    5:00 pm-10:00 pm

    The high school had power. Just before 5:00 pm, I drove our son to basketball practice, planning to return in two hours for the game. On the way there, we were at a four-way stop with a flashing red (normally a four way light with protected lefts). We could see a train approaching the intersection and the guardrails had not properly gone down. A car turned left over the train track, noticed the train was coming, and then reversed into traffic, nearly hitting the next car coming through. Our son, who studying to get his driver’s permit, noted how chaotic the scene was.

    At 6:16 pm, my son called to say the game was canceled because pieces of the gym roof were flying around. I drove back, cognizant of the traffic light problems and the old Colorado Blvd trees bending toward the street as if to pray, penitently, while I headed westward. I played a mental game of Frogger. As one tree would bend, I would slow down, wait for it to pop back up, and pass by. I called Jeff to let him know how bad it looked.

    A dust storm kicked up and pushed against our son as he struggled to get in our car. Departing the gym lot, I did not want to turn left and head back down the tree-lined streets, passing the train at multiple intersections. Nor did I want to go along Foothill, which seemed primed for a collision at the many pitch-black intersections.

    For better or worse, I chose to go down Myrtle, the center of our cute little downtown, hoping to encounter fewer vehicles. Still, with debris swirling from all the storefronts, my son and I were eager to get home safely.

    Back home around 6:50 pm, my friend and neighbor’s parents needed access to her spare key to enter the house during the power outage. I handed it into their car window in front of my home and texted her to confirm the transfer of the keys, noting that driving was becoming unsafe.

    At that moment, as I paused out front, I saw something catch fire in the distance. While looking across the street between tall trees in the cemetery and buildings in the background, I called Jeff to come out. He hobbled on his crutches from a recent surgery with our son behind him. At first, I thought it may have been an explosion at a nearby industrial building, but Jeff knew it was the mountain.

    I sent a quick text to the same friend before I went back in and said, “The mountain just caught on fire.”

    “By us? Or Palisades?” she asked.

    “Pasadena?” I replied and sent this picture.

    Not a sunset, but a quick photo I snapped of the fire the moment it lit up

    I quickly learned that Eaton Canyon had just caught fire 8 miles west and a little north of my home. Before this moment, I would not have believed you could see Eaton Canyon while facing my front door. We now know the fire started around 6:15 pm. It was visible from my front door at 6:55 pm.

    The last person to arrive safely was our guest, who was out with her class eating dinner, unaware of the full extent of what was happening outside. It took us some time for us to connect and figure out how she would get home. As soon as she did, friends evacuating Altadena near the canyon began to call.

    One friend asked if her family could evacuate to us. Ever the recovering perfectionist, I told her, “Yes, but we have no power, no floors, and we have an out-of-town guest. You’re welcome, but I want you to know.” I did not even mention that my husband was on crutches from surgery a few days ago. She texted back that they would stay in a Target underground parking lot and I kicked myself for saying anything more than “Yes!”

    Later, I texted her back, apologizing and telling her I should not have mentioned anything. “Just come,” I said. At that moment, another friend called. She lives directly across from Eaton Canyon, and they left their home with embers all over their yard (see link for a video from her neighbor two doors down). They had secured a hotel in Monrovia, but it had no power. It was after 7 o’clock, and they had been driving around with two of their teenage sons, unable to find a place to get food. I said we would throw something together.

    Jeff and our guest quickly lit the gas stove to boil water for noodles and pan-fried leftover chicken katsu. The first friend called back, saying she was on her way after all. My executive function was overwhelmed. Our daughter had just gone back to college after a month at home. Her room was a mess. Our dear friend and guest began helping me strip the bed in the dark, piling the dirty stuff to the side if this family needed to sleep there. (This guest is the same friend who once helped me wipe toddler vomit off a Pack ‘n Play into a bathtub. I was having flashbacks, but she assured me the messy teen room was not nearly as bad as the toddler vomit).

    While stripping and making the bed, my friend walked in downstairs, saw our mutual friends who had since arrived, and burst into tears. I came down the steps and hugged her, still stupidly apologizing about our house. In the end, she and her family found a better place to stay with electricity. Note to self: continue to work on not needing ducks in a row to serve and help. Before she left, I walked her to the car. Her husband came out, and I hugged him, knowing full well they could lose their house that night, and they were terrified. I waved to their daughter in the backseat, my son’s former classmate, whom we’d known since she was two years old with the big sisters in kindergarten. She was sitting like a little kid going to a sleepover with pillows and blankets surrounding her. I imagine their cat was in there somewhere too. I wondered if she would have anything left for her after the night was over.

    My friend Ellie, back in Michigan, was nursing her newborn in the middle of the night when she texted me about the baby monitor I purchased for them. I told her our circumstances briefly, and she put it so well. “You’re like the innkeeper with no more room. Who would have thought that a ripped-up house used as a surgery recovery area would also become an evacuee refuge?”

    Before the second family left our home, we gathered in our living room for a quick prayer for the safety and protection of the community and homes. We knew embers had been landing in their yard two hours before.

    Already exhausted before this week had begun, we retired to bed early without power. Jeff made his way up our long staircase in the dark, still hobbling, five days after surgery. Once in our room, he opened the blinds so we could keep one eye on the fire all night.

    Sleeping Under a Burning Mountain

    For those unfamiliar with living near California wildfires, you make ask, “Why didn’t you evacuate along with your friends? Why would you go to bed under a fire?” It is an odd truth, but there are times living here when we go to bed under a wildfire in our local mountains that could, potentially, spread. It is not because we did not understand the gravity of the greater situation.

    Of course, you can leave immediately and early if you have a place you prefer to be, but if the fire does not spread in your direction, chances are you will have school and work in the morning. You may also want to stay and keep your property safe from the winds, or God forbid, hose it down one last time, as we saw in many videos. It is unusual to leave the area completely before you are even in an evacuation zone unless you have particular health needs. Instead, you check the evacuation map and set your, hopefully, fully-charged phone right by your ear for notifications.

    For midwestern friends, the closest comparison I can think of is if you grew up, like I did, where heavy snow is frequent and salt trucks are at work around the clock. Still, every once in a while, there is a dangerous winter storm, with winds and ice, that knocks down power lines or creates black ice on the roads. Not every fire is going to come down from the mountains and burn houses. Not every ice storm is going to result in school getting canceled due to widespread treacherous conditions. Even so, I admit, fire is probably more dangerous than ice since it leaves nothing but ashes. (Or, maybe there is a better comparison to be had with lightening storms, something I have found Angelenos to be inexperience with and fearful of).

    Regardless, as you wait, you will not sleep. With every loud buzz of real-time info you lift your head, direct your bleary eyes to the blue light of your phone, and squint while zooming back over the evacuation map to clarify whether the alert was for you. If you are in the red zone, you go right away. If you are in the yellow zone, you might leave as a precaution rather than risk yellow turning to red. For us, that night, we were neither and the safest thing was to stay off the roads. People were largely evacuating to our town, not away from it, except for those homes at the highest elevation.

    We could hear the winds whirling around us like a tornado all night, palm branches brushing hard against the side of the house and our window. I could not get a good stretch of sleep. I thought of my friends who had stopped by and so many others posting on Facebook, their pain and fear of what might happen.

    I knew there would be debris strewn about the city in the morning. We did not know for sure that so many of our friends’ homes and an entire community were engulfed under a literal firestorm carried by nearly 90-mile-an-hour winds. Unable to sleep, I just prayed and begged God for mercy for our friends and community, that they would not have a total, unthinkable loss.

    Mater Dolorosa Retreat Center, presumably within 24 hours after I left. Image from their Facebook page

  • Eaton Fire (Part 1): Basic Background Info from an LA Transplant to Those Watching

    January 12th, 2025

    Los Angeles Landscape

    In spring 2009, when I learned that our midwestern life would involve a cross-country relocation to Pasadena, I called a colleague who had made the same journey. As a courtesy, he began to explain to me the landscape of the area. While describing the location of Fuller Theological Seminary, where we would study, and the surrounding towns he had lived in, he explained that this area sits at the base of a “foothill.” As a lifelong midwesterner I had no idea what he was talking about.

    First, what is a foothill? Second, how can you have a town right up on the edge of one? Google maps was not what it is today with satellites and “street view.” Even when we came twice to visit that summer before our move, it was hard to fully grasp the landscape. There are months of the year when you cannot see the mountains. We call this “June Gloom,” but it can occur any time a marine layer of clouds and fog sets in. We also have smog, which is fog made heavier by pollution. And, as you know, we have fire season, which means smoky air obscuring the mountains, even when it’s miles away.

    Often friends around the country are surprised to hear that in the urban environment surrounding Los Angeles, we live near mountains. Most people come to Los Angeles for the beach, Disneyland (technically in Orange County), and Hollywood. The mountains are probably more important to the locals who live by them than to the tourists traveling from site to site. And depending on the month of your visit, they may stay hidden the whole time.

    Everyday Commute

    The truth is, even though I live near the foothills, I do not often find time to hike them. I enjoy the times that I do (especially in cooler months). Day to day, they primarily tell me which way is north. They greet me as I do my errands and drive my kid to school. They hug all of our towns together with their towering presence, enclosing us in their embrace.

    Because we moved to this area during a super-drought it was quite a while before I observed their beauty. I first observed dry, brown stuff and experienced hot Christmases. I am glad we lived here long enough for some of the seasonal variety of the area to return in the last couple years when precipitation was abundant.

    January is typically a bright, crisp month with a clear view of the mountains. The last few Januarys we even had snow at lower elevations due to a heavy rain season. Whenever we have a clear or partially clear view, I am the person in my family who says, “Wow, the mountains look so pretty today!” It brings me joy.

    I find it hard to convey to midwesterners what it is like to have mountains in your backyard while living in an urban environment. It still surprises me when I step out my door and turn the corner to walk my dog early in the morning. The mountains greet me, looking different everyday. I never know what they will be wearing until I leave my home. It is a special treat to drive home from the east and watch the sunset with brushstrokes of pink and orange running into them.

    I’ve included two pictures below to show you the kind of variety (good and bad) that comes with living near these mountains.

    Fire-covered mountains from our balcony in September 2020.
    Snow covered mountains as seen from our balcony in Dec 2020, three months after fire.

    The San Gabriel Valley

    When we initially moved across the country, we lived for three months in Glendale (8 miles west from the center of Pasadena) while we searched for a home to buy. That was our first experience with fires as the Station Fire started 3 weeks later, the largest of that year’s fire season. It did threaten Glendale, but not where we were located. New friends went through mandatory evacuations.

    To understand the area where we live and how the Eaton Fire spread you have to have some familiarity with the foothills and how multiple cities are connected together within them. Together our cities make up the San Gabriel Valley because we sit beneath the San Gabriel Mountains (the green area north of the cities on the map below, and the mountains you can see in my balcony photos above). “The 210 corridor” is the section of the freeway that serves as our passageway from east to west. As a ten lane highway (five lanes in each direction) it juxtaposes our natural backdrop to the north.

    For fifteen years, my family and I have lived in Monrovia, 8 miles east of the center of Pasadena. On this map the city where we first had an apartment, Glendale, is represented by the GLN evacuation zones. Glendale is technically where both the San Gabriel Valley and the San Fernando Valley meet. The city we live in now, Monrovia, is represented by the MRV evacuation codes. The San Gabriel Valley extends beyond us to the east and below us to the south.

    Explaining Evacuation

    The damage caused by Eaton Fire which is still active has occurred in four cities, Altadena (ALD), Pasadena (PAS), Sierra Madre (SMD), and Arcadia (ARC). The primary damage is almost the entire municipality of Altadena, which was hit particularly hard in the Northwest, a densely populated residential area marked by historically black home ownership.

    The zones in red on the map (this map is 2 days old) indicate mandatory evacuations and the yellow indicates evacuation warnings, which means to be ready in case your yellow zone becomes a red one. For those concerned for us, we live a block south of the 210-freeway, and our zone has no evacuation orders related to this fire.

    At this point, as far as I understand, the evening of January 7 and morning of January 8 when the winds got up to 88 miles an hour was the most threatening and devastating time for this fire, resulting in the worst of the damage to structures in towns. Reports state that an estimated 7000 structures have been damaged in what is largely a residential area.

    While the fire remains largely uncontained, it is not currently engulfing further parts of the town. It moved up in the forest and the ridge. On the map below, the black lines indicate the points of containment. As you drive along the 210-freeway today, you cannot currently see that there is a fire except for a few smoky areas.

    According to our Monrovia city manager, “When dealing with wildfires, the word “containment” describes how much of a fire has been surrounded with a control line. That control line is a barrier that incident managers believe the fire will not cross.” It does not mean the fire is actively growing along the red lines around the neighborhood; it means they have not declared that it’s under their control.

    I hope this helped give an introduction to our geography so that you can understand the situation if you are unsure how it affects people you know in the area. I will continue to write as I am able in the coming week.

    I did not touch on the details of the devastation in this post because I wanted to give some backdrop to make it more understandable first. But it is beyond anything we could have imagined.

  • The Pain of Healing

    December 30th, 2024

    The last few years have been a plot twist for my family. If you had asked me to describe my life prior, I would have called it complex. Even so, within complexity, we had few curveballs until the recent season of life hurled a number of them.

    When your prior structure and framework for your life becomes a rug pulled out from under you, first, you will experience disruption and disorientation. Then, there is an opportunity to go through a process of healing. The healing has to do with figuring out what is accurate and true. You must dig deeper to discover what was false or faulty about your previous operational mode.

    My conclusion about such healing is this–it feels like dying.

    In other words, there is a lengthy stage in the healing process where you shed the old and do not yet have the new. This process is a slow, pronounced kind of dying. It is hard to explain unless you have gone through it because it is a dying into health, putting to death things that you will not bring forward with you.

    This phenomenon is well-documented. You can read Richard Rohr’s Falling Upward or St. John of the Cross’s Dark Night of the Soul to think about this on a spiritual and soul level. Or, you can think about it on a medical and bodily level. If you have surgery and a serious recovery process, you may feel temporarily worse before you feel better. The passageway between what was and will be is both painful and inconvenient.

    A Real-Life Metaphor

    The latest life-inspired metaphor to help ponder this is an appliance flood in our home on December 2nd.

    We had just finished a lovely Thanksgiving weekend with our college-age daughter home for her first break. It was the Monday after. She was back at school, my husband was on a plane for a work trip, and I was on my morning Zoom call when I stepped out of our home office to make tea. What greeted me was a washing machine failure from the load I had thrown in just before the call.

    Initially, it looked like an inconvenient derailment of my Monday morning, but when I saw the extent of the nooks and crannies the water had flowed into, it became a disruption on a much larger scale. By that evening, insurance had sent a water remediation company to tear out our floors and cut into our walls. They removed any damp materials and left us with eight industrial fans blowing at a deafening frequency.

    image of home after appliance flooded the floor, everything had been torn out and fans were running
    The beginning of the demolition

    What began as a hopeful Monday morning for quiet work and a peaceful start to the extras of the holiday season turned upside down. I asked the contractor for his honest timeline estimate. He told me two months. Four weeks have passed, and his estimate seems accurate. We have made it through the worst. The contractors patched up our walls the day before Christmas, but our possessions and our dining table continue to sit in the garage. Rugs cover a pathway through the rooms so we do not have to stand on hard, cold concrete.

    I am seeing in a new way from this unfortunate experience.

    Quick Break, Slow Repair

    Damage happens relatively quickly. (It took less than 1 hour for the water from one load of laundry to damage half of our first floor.) The demolition is less instantaneous but also relatively quick. I had no time to waste as I pulled every towel out of our linen closet and got to work in back-breaking labor, even pulling out the heavy washing machine that I have seen contractors struggle to move in a moment of Herculean strength. Then, without delay, insurance made sure to do damage control by tearing out every area of dampness and throwing it away.

    The process gets slow once the damage is done and the demolition is complete. The rebuild does not begin or proceed with the same sense of urgency.

    It would have increased the cost of the claim if the insurance were to act slowly, allowing the water to do more damage. But in rebuilding they take time to negotiate with the contractors over every nickel and dime. They make slow determinations between their other urgent jobs. Then, the estimator finds contractors that can do the work within the parameters of the insurance claim. Because it is the holiday season, the progress is even slower.

    Living in Between

    On the other end, you have us, the homeowners. We have to live in a state of disrepair. It looks bleak and requires a lot of patience and renegotiating what life looks like daily as you try to cook and live in a disrupted environment. If someone were to walk into my house on the day all those fans were blowing (as several neighbors did), they would say what a disaster (as they did). However, as awful as it looked, those were the first stages of the rebuild. We were preparing a dry foundation.

    a messy living room with a Christmas tree and furniture pushed together
    One of my least favorite days. Living in a state of mayhem as repairs were underway on Dec. 23.

    It looked better with the floor in tact, but underneath, dampness was going to mold. The day the floors were left bare and the concrete exposed was the first step in creating something new.

    In other words, when it most looked like a catastrophe, the rebuild was underway. Likewise, there are moments that most look like death, where healing is underway. I could see the rebuilding stage in a new way and understand my life in the last year or so.

    Hope in Rebuilding

    Rebuilding is disruptive but promising. If damage happened without your agency, it is not your chosen path. The only way out is rebuilding and in that stage you are about to experience a good thing.

    Things will go wrong in the process. It will feel like chaos and disorient you again. (I have never heard of a rebuilding process for anything without setbacks, mistakes, or delays.) However, brick by brick, you are headed in the right direction.

    It feels terrible when you cannot appreciate the progress. When things are incomplete, it can facilitate despair. But when you understand the small steps with gratitude and keep your eyes on the bigger picture (we are getting new floors, new paint, a new washer, new floorboards, etc.), you can persevere. You can have some hope.

    If the rebuild process is causing you despair, I understand.

    But, I want to offer a perspective I am learning: you deserve to be congratulated. You already made it through the damage and the demolition. You are on the road to something better, something new. Not every day will look like any amount of progress. And some days, nothing truly advances. But you have every right to have hope. This stage is not a teardown. It is a piece-by-piece renovation.

    If you are like I was last year, in a season of despair and disorientation, you may not have the capacity to hope (yet). I just want you to know, I have hope for you. From where I stand now, I empathize with your pain, and also see the potential for a significant rebuild in your life–one that will give you what you need for the future rather than keep things as they were in the past.

    A Quiet Rebuild

    The same principle applies on a macro level. Individuals have been experiencing damage, demolition, and rebuilding, but so has our society. Rather than living in rubble, we can clear it away and build something new over time. The other side of collapse is the first stone being laid.

    Christmas is the beginning of a renovation phase. Christ came to earth as a new beginning, the second Adam. The first man and woman acted in ways that brought about damage to every generation. Subsequent generations, like Noah’s, had to deal with the demolition that followed.

    The incarnation is a quiet rebuild, a flutter in a young woman’s womb that became light and hope for the world. It looked like nothing, but it was quite something.

    You may be engulfed by atrocious damage done to you and others. You may be watching the rubble pile up in the teardown, debilitated like I was a year ago. But if you know the Christmas story, you know the angels, shepherds, and magi were the early witnesses to humanity’s rebuilding.

    It did not look like much when he was born among the animals to unimportant people in a tiny city. The threat of more rubble came in the form of edicts for infanticide and crossing borders seeking refuge.

    Rebuilds are long and slow. What looks like wreckage today is a new beginning for our home and family.

    I believe the same for you. Where you are is not where you will end up.

    Damage comes with the loudest bang but is the shortest visitor.

    The teardown may take a little while.

    But the longest leg of the journey is the rebuilding. And building is good. Piece by piece, you will get there.

    We will get there.

  • Resist the Splitter

    November 14th, 2024

    As an American, 9 days after the 2024 election, I sit here with three posts written in my drafts folder. None seemed quite right. I told myself to sit at least a week, to be silent and see what rises up. My unique experience is going to inform my response, as it does for each of us.

    Whereas Americans (including Christians) have generally moved further from those with differing political views and closer to those with the same, my story is different. I upended my career because of a sense of call away from ministry in the university (where political views trended more similar to my own) to church and local ministry (where political views trended the opposite of my own). That is its own story.

    The results have been varied; some surprising miracles have happened and some repeat, stinging heartaches. I share this for context. My worship spaces are still with a majority of people who vote differently than me, more so than in the last two elections. Various push factors have caused others of my ilk to find new places of worship.

    Of course, this goes deeper than politics in the sense of which candidate you would vote for in a Trump era. It goes into how we order what is most important, which scriptures are key in shaping our political and social imaginations, and which threats to the gospel we identify as most imminently harmful. But, this piece is not going to dive into that. My only goal is to share an operative principle I am taking into our new reality.

    A few years ago, during the height of political tensions in our country, I was given an online sermon to listen to as an assignment for a committee. I do not remember most of the content or even the passage the pastor expounded in the recording (possibly James 4:17). I remember one phrase, the sermon’s main point.

    “Resist the splitter.”

    The splitter, in context, is the devil. The devil’s one agenda is to destroy the work of God by any means necessary, including one of the most effective ways, which is dividing the church so that we hate one another. In the Christian faith, we are brothers and sisters. We share a humanity-healing meal of one broken body, which we equally do not deserve. If the splitter can break up this family table, bought with Christ’s shed blood, there are few things more effective for his destructive purposes.

    A few days ago, it just so happened our monthly Bible Study came to John 13, when Jesus takes the position of a servant and washes his disciples’ feet. In this scene, Jesus gives us a commandment unique to John’s gospel. In short, his disciples are to love one another as Christ has loved them. The command is to be a new family–Jesus’ family–together.

    We know that Jesus’ chosen brothers included Simon, a zealot who wanted to take the kingdom by force and Matthew, a tax collector who betrayed his own people to make a little money from the occupying empire. It is a peculiar bunch to be sure. Before the Last Supper, Jesus washes the feet of all twelve of his new family members, including Judas (his soon-to-be betrayer) and Peter (his soon-to-be denier). John tells us he loved them well until the end.

    As a reformer by nature, I can get caught up in change that needs to happen, becoming so angry and disillusioned that I fail to obey Christ’s example to love his whole family until the very end. It is not easy. It is extremely costly to have this kind of servant love. But it becomes an example to us for the betrayals we have and will face. And, while there is room for making bold decisions about right and wrong and false teaching from my conscience, I do not get a pass on sacrificial love even if/when I am right.

    It is not my goal to try to express what that should look like. We cheapen God’s grace and love when we programmatize it. It requires deep discernment from a life of prayer, connected to the vine (John 15). It requires supernatural help to carry on in the face of evil, fear, and pain. (And sometimes, because we are only human, carrying on requires taking a break to get off the frontlines so we can heal and rest).

    Jesus’ final acts of love and his new commandment to his disciples compel me to make this my goal. Resist the splitter.

    Because the splitter is so effective, I know I will feel like I am being stretched until I tear in two with one foot each in places being pulled apart. It will be painful, but I will make it my mission to resist him anyway. Because the splitter is so cunning, as I work for the purity of the bride of Christ with my family, we will likely continue to be called names, misunderstood, accused, and scapegoated by brothers and sisters. I will resist the splitter anyway. Because the splitter is so deceptive, he will continue to turn the lies inward on me and make me feel rejected, worthless, and unloved. I will call upon the name of Jesus to resist the splitter anyway.

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    If I make it my main mission to resist the devil, I will cover all my bases.

    I cannot be naive. The scripture tells us he is the ruler of the world. He is our #1 enemy. He is the master of deception and we cannot fight against him while participating in something he loves (fracturing the church and despising one another). We cannot love our neighbors in the name of Jesus and power of the Holy Spirit if we succumb to rejecting our brother and sisters, who are together with us in Christ. How could we then drink of the communion cup from Christ who taught us how to be a neighbor? But the splitter is busy, always at work, prowling in the darkness, using our self-righteousness to hijack our righteous indignation.

    I could write pages and pages on the things I think about this moment of time and what we should or might do as Christians, but the pastor who preached this sermon was right. There is something fundamental about resisting the force that is feeding off of it all. He loves exploiting our vulnerabilities to make sure we go into separate spaces where we can demonize one another, instead of stand together against his demons.

    Perhaps you are still discerning your acts of Christian faithfulness after last week’s election. If so, I humbly suggest that resisting the splitter might be a good foundational commitment for all of us.

    It wouldn’t make sense to feed the hand that bites us.

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